There are no solutions. Just trade-offs.
The American economist Thomas Sowell wrote down this idea in his book “A Conflict Of Visions” but I feel it applies just to about anything in the real world.
Whenever we have a problem, or make a decision, we have the tendency to think there is a solution.
Something that makes the problem go away.
But that’s never really the case.
If you choose between two job offers, you’ll never have a perfect job you will love all the time.
If you choose between two colleges, no matter which you choose, it won’t take a week to find out something negative about your choice.
The lesson isn’t that we should all prepare for disappointment, though; it is that we shouldn’t look for perfection. Instead, we need to lean into the trade-offs, understand them, work with them, and bend them until we find one we’re willing to make.